Abusive Relationship Checklist
(Check all that apply to your relationship.)
- Do you feel nervous around your boyfriend or girlfriend?
- Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid their anger?
- Do you feel pressured by them when it comes to sex?
- Are you scared of disagreeing with them?
- Do they criticize you or humiliate you in front of other people?
- Are they always checking up or questioning you about what you are doing or where you are at?
- Do they repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of flirting with other people?
- Do they BLAME you for their behavior?
- Do they try to keep you from seeing friends or family?
- Have they ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
- Do you often do things to please them rather than to please yourself?
- Do you feel that no matter how much you do, nothing is ever good enough?
- Do they say that they will hurt themselves if you break up with them?
- Do they apologize for their behavior but yet continue to do it?
- Do they make excuses for their behavior by saying they were 'just joking'?
- Are you emotionally dependant on your boyfriend/girlfriend? (Have you always jumped from one relationship to another?)
*If you answered YES to more than 3 of the above questions, you are most likely in an abusive relationship. See below for resources.
If you do think you may be in an abusive relationship, please use these referrals:
- National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474
- National Hotline for Domestic Violence: 1-800-799-7233
- Hope’s Door: 972-422-7233
1. Jay G. Silverman, PhD; Anita Raj, PhD; Lorelei A. Mucci, MPH; and Jeanne E. Hathaway, MD, MPH, “Dating Violence Against Adolescent Girls and Associated Substance Use, Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual Risk Behavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality,” Journal of the American Medical Association, Vol. 286, No. 5, 2001
2. U.S. Department of Justice, Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, March 1998